It goes without saying that parenting takes up a lot of time, effort and energy. It sort of demands the whole lot of your time, and there are times when you feel you need more than 24 hours a day to finish up all your chores while catering to every need of your baby. So what happens when you are a working mother? No doubt you would need to put in double the effort and energy. It is only natural that working mothers feel extremely guilty at times for not being able to be around their children all the time - for leaving them in crushes/daycares or with a nanny until they are back from work. If you are going through such struggles in life right now, this is for you!
You are not a bad mother!
Keep saying this to yourself! - You are not a bad mother. People may guilt trip you into believing this. People may urge you to quit the job and be there for your baby 24/7. You may have this feeling in mind that you are depriving your child of your time that he deserves. But relax! The very fact that you are juggling between work, chores and parenting is because you want to provide the best for your baby. Do not give in to the ‘I am but a bad mother’ dilemma. Plan your day accordingly and make sure that your baby gets a decent share of your time so much so that the bonding between you both stay intact.
Choose the best
I’ve heard somebody say this - You wouldn’t dare to leave your wallet unattended at home when your maid is around, then how would you dare to leave your baby who is way more precious than your wallet with a maid for 8-9 hours. Well it makes a lot of sense. To make sure that your baby is safe with the Nanny or at the daycare, do a thorough research about the daycare or the Nanny before you decide to enroll your child. Ask the people who have already used the services of the particular daycare or Nanny before you jump headfirst. Choose the place wisely and you will have a peaceful work-life balance.
Make your home baby friendly
First and foremost, make sure that your home is baby friendly. Seal the sockets that are placed within the reach of the children. Do not leave any sharp objects around the home within his reach. You could also buy baby safety products online to make your home baby friendly. Banister shields, cabinet and drawer latches that prevent your baby from opening cabinets, oven lock, toilet seat lid lock, furniture safety brackets etc are some of the baby proofing products that you could opt for.
Set a routine
If you decide to leave your baby with a Nanny, it is always a great idea to set a routine for your baby to make it easy for her. This could make it less frustrating for her. When you are at home, make sure that you set a pattern for your baby - from the time he wakes up to having breakfast and taking an afternoon nap. Pretty sure that your baby will also would find it easy and convenient to follow this routine and feel settled even when you are not around. You would find it convenient too on off days when you can get some beauty sleep or finish off the chores that you’ve been procrastinating for the entire week.
Last but not the least - take up responsibilities equally. It is natural that you may feel drained out at the end of the day after a lot of work and may not have the energy to spend on your child. But know that parents have equal responsibility over the child and the Father should also make sure that he puts in the effort to raise the child. You both are a team and parenting could be a cakewalk if you take up responsibilities equally and raise the child together as one team.